the 5 people who made an impact on my life; so far

People make time for those who matter. Never believe anyone who says (or who doesn’t say it) they’re too busy. If they wanted to be around you, they would.

Damn, why did I choose to write about this? Just five? Ok, here goes…

First of all, let me say I’m grateful. Not everyone has two, three or even five or ten people who’ve made an impact on their lives. And, because I’ve had so many amazing influences, for this, I feel incredibly grateful.

My Dad
The most important thing he taught me he has told me over and over and over again and it stuck. Thankfully so, because I’ve needed to recall this phrase many times in my life.

“Everything is going to be ok. It will work out.”

Who doesn’t want to hear that, right?! Who doesn’t need to hear that?! No matter what happened to me, no matter how upset I was, no matter if he knew or not that it would be ok, his response was always this phrase when I was upset and overwhelmed. When big, salty tears were flowing from my eyes and soaking my shirt, when hiding under a pile of blankets was all I could do for days, men reached into me and violently ripped out my heart, and more times than I can remember – Dad was there.

“Everything is going to be ok. It will work out.”

My Students
My yoga students have changed my life. Yes, for those of you doing the math, it’s more than five, blah, blah, blah! I don’t care.

My students have given me a career purpose – to help others and inspire others. They helped me figure out what sets my soul on fire! How many people can say that!? They give me an hour of their time each week – sometimes two or three hours and I am honored. Talking to them is like a therapy session:

  • I can tell them anything and they understand me.
  • I hold space for them and they hold it for me too.
  • I honor them. They honor me.
  • I teach them things and they teach me more.
  • I’m humble because of them.
  • I’m not afraid to be ME because of them.

Some of my students have become my lifelong friends, my soul sisters, my ride or die, team. They give me a voice and shine the brightest light in my heart seeing their smiling faces, their crying faces, their grumpy faces, their BRAVE faces.

My Babies
My kiddos. Ava and Maximus have impacted my life in so many ways… it’s hard to pick. Actually, they’ve taught me, love. What true love really looks like. It’s not hurtful, it’s not anger, it’s not jealous, it’s not anything, but love.

They teach me every day a new thing about love. Sometimes love just wants me to listen. I recently learned this from Ava. She came home from school and I could tell she was frustrated. I asked her what was wrong and she said she had a bad day at school. I asked her what happen and she started by mentioning one thing that went wrong and then she paused. I so badly wanted to interject and say, “what else? Or, I’m sorry that happened.” But something inside me told me I just needed to be silent.

After a few seconds, she was on a roll! Telling me everything that made her day so stinky. After she was done talking I gave her a big hug and said, “It’s ok babe, thanks for telling me what happened. Let’s say a prayer.”

After the prayer, she gave me a big hug, smiled and said, “Mommy, I love you.”

Maximus, he teaches me about snuggles and the impact of human connection. He loves to hug and snuggle with me. In the morning when he gets up, the first thing he does is come over and sit right up against me on the couch, rubs his eyes and lays a blanket over us.

Crying!!!!

Ok, he is just the sweetest little guy ever and is such a ray of sunshine in my life. I’ve learned that some people just want to be touched and they don’t want words.

My Mom
This one really was taught to me by both my parents, but I’ll give mom this one! Unconditional love. I think it’s rare these days. But, I’m grateful that I get to experience it. Of all the unhealthy choices I’ve made, my parents could have easily held them against me, but they didn’t. All they did was love me harder.

I get sad when I see other parents, not admitting to their own mistakes and apologizing, making their children feel guilty, or shunning them completely. My mom has always shown me, love, no matter what. Sometimes that was a slap across the face or a smack on the butt because I was being sassy, but you know what – that’s unconditional love. She made me clean my room, do dishes, mow the yard and more. But, she did it out of love and I’m so glad she did.

Whenever I messed up in life, she still loved me. Whenever I made bad choices, she still loved me. Whenever I yelled at her or gave her attitude, she still loved me. Whenever I disobeyed her, she still loved me. No matter what she still loves me.

Tell Me
Who are the people in your life that have impacted you and why? I want to know. Comment below and tell me!

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