Do you ever feel like everyone else is happy, but you? Does it seem like there’s something missing in you, or do you think there’s a happy pill you don’t know about? Well, there’s no happy pill and something could be missing – yes. But, don’t worry. We’re going to find out together what’s up and how you can discover your true happiness.
I’m sure you guys have heard of the book, written by the Dalai Lama, entitled “The Art of Happiness.” And, if you haven’t well, check it out, it’s definitely worth reading. He says there are two key parts of happiness: gratitude and positive environment. However, I believe it takes a few other things.
A ton of research has been done by mental health professionals and many of them have concluded that there are about five or six parts to happiness. They say that if you can “check off” all parts you’re most likely a truly happy person.
My thoughts on this…
“Well, damn. Why didn’t’ they teach us this shit in school?” I mean isn’t happiness important? Are we just supposed to innately know how to be happy or feel it?”
I never knew about these parts of happiness, nor did I learn them so I had the feeling maybe you guys haven’t either! So, let’s do this together. Shall we?
The 6 Parts of Happiness
By looking at the diagram we can see that by making the choice to be happy is the first step! Now, this is pretty interesting to me, because most of my life I thought happy happened to you. I thought if you landed your dream job, married your best friend, drove the sweetest car, and traveled the world you’d be happy. HAAAAA!
Boy, was I wrong?
Sadly, it wasn’t until much later in life, when I got a taste of some of these things. For example, I got the job of my dreams in my mid-thirties and realized I hated it, and I certainly wasn’t happy.
I’ve learned over the last few years that happiness lies in who we are and the choices we make. Not the things we have, or our accomplishments. I know what you’re thinking – “Duh, Kelly, of course, material things and money don’t make us happy.”
But, honestly guys let’s not kid ourselves. We ALL at some point in our lives thought that if we had the car, the guy/girl, the house with the white picket fence, etc., that we would be happy. Am I right?!
Ok, back to choosing happiness.
Bottom line is, the first most important part of happiness, is the choice you make to be happy. After that, there are six other parts you need to investigate.
Values: These are essentially what makes you, you. They help you make all your decisions and dictate your behavior. When you’re following your values, you feel calm and confident. (Side note: If you don’t know what your values are, sign up for my email and stay tuned… a blog post is coming next month on this topic!)
Purpose: This is your WHY. What were you put on this planet to achieve; be? And, most importantly – WHY? If you have a purpose, you have goals, you have direction!
Support: Love and support from your friends and family AND you showing your support to others are both key points when it comes to support. It’s all about finding your “tribe” and giving and receiving.
One of my favorite quotes:
“The best way to find yourself is in the service of others.” –Gandhi
Health & Wellbeing: How is your physical and mental health? Do you take care of yourself like you should? Do you treat your body and mind as a temple? If not, if your mood and diet are off you could be missing out on happiness.
Gratitude: Be happy and appreciate what you are and what you have at the moment. Gratitude helps us stay grounded and present. It helps us stop comparing ourselves to others and allows us to focus on the now instead of worrying about tomorrow.
Balance: To me, this one is one of the most important, aside from choice. Everything in moderation – there should be ying to every yang in your life. Nothing is ever good all the time, which makes balance a big part of being truly happy.
So, tell me, after reading through the parts of happiness, are you happy? Or, do you need to make some changes in your life? Do you need to go back to the drawing board on a part or two? Comment below and I promise to answer you back J Let’s get happy!