Have you ever had a friend who you knew you could help if only they listened to your advice? It’s not easy changing our behaviors or habits. I get it. But, some people just don’t understand that you’re not going to get a different result if you keep doing the same old thing – am I right? For today’s act of kindness, I thought well, maybe if my friend doesn’t listen to me, maybe she’ll listen to this article.
Today is day nine of my Blogging for Kindness 31-Day Challenge. Today’s challenge: pass along an article to a friend who could benefit from it.
I have a friend who has been struggling for some time to find “the one.” She’s gone on many many dates set up by many of the popular dating apps but they’ve all failed her. She constantly complains to me that she doesn’t think there is anyone out there for her and that she’ll become an old maid and never find her true love.
She’s divorced and can I tell you, that her ex-husband is not a nice man. She was crushed over their break-up, but sadly continues to date these men that are exactly like her ex. You’d think she’d catch on by now, right?
She chases after these men for all the wrong reasons. They have to be hot, have a great body, drive a nice car, oh, and be a little mean to her too.
Yep, you heard me right! She actually chooses to date men who are a little rude. You know, the ones who have a sky-high ego and think everyone is always watching them because they are the poster-boy perfection of a male specimen. Eww!
(side note: I think I just mini-puked in my mouth!)
You get the point.
So, anyway, the other day I was scrolling through social media and I came across an article written by the lovely and talented author Brianna Wiest! The article is titled, Let Go Of The People Who Aren’t Ready To Love You. I read only the first few sentences and immediately thought of my friend! I sent it to her straight away.
After reading the full article I even got some great reminders for myself and loved Brianna’s point about how even though you want everyone to like you and be in their good graces, it’s actually the behavior that robs you of you your time and energy. Not to mention your right mind.
Wow! So impactful. I was sure my friend would have an epiphany.
Well, it kinda went like this once I heard back from her…
“Hey, girl. Thanks for sending that. I didn’t get to read it yet, but I will. Let’s get together soon!”
My heart sank. She is such a sweet girl and has the best of intentions, but just can’t get over this one hurdle and keeps missing the jump. It’s like she’s stuck on repeat. At first, I felt really frustrated, but then I said to myself, ya know, at least I passed it on and maybe one day she’ll read the article and things will change.
For now, I’m not going to give up on her because she is a friend who hasn’t given up on me and has never done anything to intentionally hurt me and that’s rare these days. So, I’m gonna keep on trying and who knows – maybe I’ll come across another article someday that will work!
What act of kindness will you take on today? Don’t give up on the good friends. Pass along something to them that you know they could use. Send them a positive message that you care. Comment below. I want to know!