I’m thankful for my family, good food, friends… these are some of the typical responses to that once a year question, “What are you thankful for?” We often recite all the good things in our lives, but have you ever stopped to think about being thankful for the not so good things?
I used to think I was cursed and that the “guy upstairs” had it out for me. One hurdle after the other would constantly block me from doing or getting what I wanted. I viewed my life as one big pile of “you know what” that grew larger and larger every day – stopping me from being happy and living the life I was destined too.
When you’re going through a difficult time in life and your struggles are suffocating you, it can be hard to see what’s really going on, and why. You’re often so focused on getting through the problems that you don’t stop to think that maybe your current situation is for good.
Maybe this “bad” thing that’s going on is a signal to you that an area of your life needs to change. Maybe it’s the universe’s way of taking your hand and guiding you through the fire because there’s something so much better on the other side.
From Dust To Diamonds
Once you get through your turmoil, do you ever reflect on why the obstacle occurred and if it actually created something good? Did a significant change happen as a result of your struggle and did you notice you’re happier now than before?
Call me crazy, and maybe I’ve been through so many struggles in my life that I’m trying to make lemonade out of lemons but when the dust settles I can see why each hurdle in my life happened. I can see that the obstacles have led me and continue to lead me to become the best version of me.
Give thanks for your struggles. Embrace the obstacles.
Learn to appreciate the “downs” of life – not just the “ups.”
Embrace Your Shit
Our hard times make us stronger. They give us purpose and change us. They give us an opportunity to do better the next time or to go left at the fork in the road, as opposed to the right. The struggles (if we willingly embrace and reflect on them) make us better humans.
Think back… what have you gained or learned from your life roadblocks?
Personally, I’ve gained compassion, understanding, strength, courage, faith, and so much more! The best part is that I know I deserve to feel and can wholeheartedly accept these new badges of good because I made it through and I’m still smiling.
So, I challenge you this year, when you sit down at your Thanksgiving table, remember and be thankful for your life struggles, not just your life celebrations.
What good has come from your hardships? What have you gained from going through the fire and coming out on the other side?